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Jennifer's avatar

Interesting you felt vulnerable sharing that you didn’t co-sleep, whereas in my circles I felt judged FOR doing it!

Something that helped me was trying to just use language where I described what I was doing rather than using those generalised terms. So I started saying my baby sleeps in with us at night rather than co-sleeping, or I give my baby formula sometimes rather than mixed feeding. Helped to untangle some of the guilt or feelings of judgement. Also getting off social media helped a tonne too

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

That's such fantastic advice. I really love that. Sleep can be so divisive I very rarely discuss it but I get served all that co-sleeping is natural and instinctive messages on Instagram and it makes me feel a bit shit because it just didn't work for our family.

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Reannon's avatar

I realised last winter that hoodies were choking me too! I had a pink one I still really liked so I just cut the hood off with some scissors & now it's an "at-home jumper". I love it! I've also come to realise that in winter I only want to wear sneakers. I gave my Doc boots to my 10-year-old daughter (life made!), and sold my Doc Mary Janes on Depop & I am thinking of doing the same with my worn-once Doc clogs. I live in my new balance & converse. I feel that at 45 I am in my comfort era when it comes to anything I put on my body.

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

Oh what a lovely moment! And yes I discovered a while ago Docs are really heavy and I can't wear them all day and that's kind of the point. I'm gently entering into sneaker territory and I like it!

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Sarah's avatar

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. It feels like before coming a parent there is THE WAY to do things right. And it’s not til after you are a parent that the world tells you ‘actually all of us are making it up as we go all the time’. I wish I knew that sooner! There are things I saw I’d never/always do, and none of that is true now - and I’m ok with it.

I also hate the idea that the fact I have a chill, content baby means I’m doing a good job as a mum, because it implies that the parents of fussy/unsettled babies are doing something wrong. I’m just #blessed and I know that and appreciate it every day.

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Jenna's avatar

A reel popped up for me with a video of some kids at the airport and the caption said something to the effect of they were a “crunchy” family because the kids had wired headphones for their devices??

In more important news, in response to one of the comments above, I’m firmly a sneakers all the time person now. I have 10 pairs of shoes at my desk but one day I just couldn’t bear to change out of my commuting shoes and that was that.

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Linda Loving Living's avatar

Oh those cheerleaders have got me. Such an easy watch and I’m two episodes in. My hubby and I are seriously Looking at a 6 month gap next year to travel. At 56 the clock is ticking. We did 6 weeks in Europe this year and it’s giving us a longing .,…

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Stephanie Lauren's avatar

Love to listen. Forever. 🥰

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Frances's avatar

On denim, I live and breathe Rollas. High waist, fit like a glove. Have multiple pairs. They have all different denim types, ranging from ultra-rigid to stretchy-stretch, as well as multiple colours and styles. And they are an Aussie brand. Unfortunately their nearest shops are in capital cities but given the number of fab local women I see around Beechy wearing them, you'd be easily able to on-sell if you found they weren't right for you!

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

Yes! Rollas are on my list but I need to be able to try them on. I cannot buy denim online. Hard pass. I need one of the fab local women to be my size so I can try them on!

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Tara's avatar

Totally agree, Ripley was so boring. I wanted to love it but just couldn’t. Didn’t make it past episode 1. Did enjoy seeing Andrew Scott in small pants though, he’s divine.

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

Thank you! I'm so glad you agree! I felt like I wasn't cool enough to enjoy it. 😂

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SimpleSlowRoad (Sarah&Suzey)'s avatar

still enjoying listening each time its recorded.

Thank you :)

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

I live for these comments! Thank you! As long as people are listening (and telling me they're listening!) I'll keep doing it!

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Holly Garber's avatar

Love this mini essay on parenting especially 'Parenting is a spectrum'.

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Holly Garber's avatar

Love this mini essay on parenting especially 'Parenting is a spectrum'.

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

Thank you that's lovely! I'm finding I get pigeonhole a lot as a parent with people expressing surprise over parenting choices I make, because they had me pegged as something different and I think we're all just throwing shit at the wall and seeing what sticks.

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Holly Garber's avatar

100% we are and I also feel like we all need to agree to not comment on each others parenting!

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

Right? Like on last week's newsletter I mentioned I said 'Let's be calmer with our bodies' to my 5 year old and someone comment 'calmer with our bodies?'. I could give the benefit of the doubt and assume they were genuinely curious but they weren't. Clearly didn't like that phrasing. a) it's fine b)get out of here! for real.

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Holly Garber's avatar

!!!!

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Annie's avatar

I 100% thought this was going to be about hair! 😆

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

It's so bizarre how the algorithm hits you with weird concepts like this and other people just don't get hit with it! Could very easily be about hair!

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LM's avatar

Great newsletter this week - love those sunglasses, great recipes (love the RTE cookbook too) and book recommendations!

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Michelle's avatar

WHY DOES EVERYTHING HAVE HOODS?!

Speaking of sneakers, have you seen the Birkenstock sneaks? My life has been revolutionised!

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

I realised I had a draw of hoodies I never wear and its because I hate them. I'm done! No ill check them out!

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Daniele Bywater's avatar

on a side note - i love your hair ! xx

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Carly Jacobs's avatar

Oh thank you! It's VERY short ATM. But I like it.

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